Anshu is a specialist relationship counsellor trained at Relate and the Institute of Family Therapy. She sees couples, individuals and families for short or long-term counselling. She's also a personal development coach.

I can help with...

  • Affairs and betrayals
  • Anger management
  • Anxiety
  • Borderline personality
  • Communication skills
  • Depression
  • Eating disorders
  • Emotional abuse
  • Family issues
  • Gender issues
  • Loneliness and isolation
  • Personal development
  • Physical abuse
  • Postnatal depression
  • Pregnancy, birth and loss
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Separation and divorce
  • Sexual abuse
  • Sexual problems
  • Sexuality
  • Stress

Types of client I see

  • Individuals
  • Couples
  • Families

Languages I speak

  • English

Location(s)

  • Room 31 at 175–7 Borough High Street, SE1 1HR

Types of therapy I offer

  • Attachment-based psychotherapy
  • Coaching
  • Integrative psychotherapy/counselling
  • Mindfulness
  • Narrative therapy
  • Psychodynamic psychotherapy

My approach

I work with different types of clients – including families – but specialise in couples counselling.

Relationship counselling focuses on how couples, families and individuals relate to one another and themselves. My aim is to improve people’s relationships.

The relationship we develop together will be the first step to helping you achieve your expectations.

When couples are at an ‘impasse’ they often feel stuck or helpless – this is where I can help untangle or break down the issues in a sensitive and insightful way.

My time with couples is spent helping them navigate their communication blocks – why they are struggling to hear each other or why they have stopped listening altogether.

Through my training, I have developed techniques to support relationships going through such obstacles.

However, the complexity of how couples communicate can often be symptomatic of something else, such as:

  • having affairs
  • sexual problems/practices
  • anger
  • abuse
  • controlling behaviour
  • stress
  • pressure of life/work balance
  • bereavements
  • redundancy
  • promotion
  • financial strain
  • lack of intimacy
  • loss of desire
  • starting a family
  • postnatal depression
  • chronic anxiety
  • falling out of love

Together, we unpack and flesh out what is behind the communication issues to explore new ways of moving forward and being happier. Sometimes, this may involve separation or divorce.

I offer counselling that is supportive for both parties during this uncertain and often conflictual period.

With couples and families in distress, I use combinations of narrative therapy and mindfulness techniques to provide ‘a distance from the problems’, which then allows space to observe and understand how to find new ways to resolve issues, which would otherwise be too difficult.

For individuals who find their relationships are not meeting expectations, are disappointing or unfulfilling, then I can help by working through the anxiety or depression you might be left with.

I use psychodynamic and attachment psychology to unpack what might be behind your subconscious patterns – looking at family history as well as wider contexts, such as social life, politics, class, gender, sexuality, religion, culture or race.

My training in mindfulness-based stress reduction, plus my own meditation practice, gives me another platform of expertise to share with you, depending on the issues and style of counselling that’s required.

If you feel your relationship with yourself or another is at breaking point, getting in touch with me could allow you that safe space to reflect and understand if there are other ways to find answers.

Personal development coaching

If counselling isn’t quite what you’re looking for then I am also a personal development coach and couples coach. See my coaching website for more details.

About me

As a private practitioner, I work hard to make sure my clients experience meets their expectations. Whilst working as a relationship counsellor for Relate, I’ve gained a solid foundation and network that supports and informs my private practice.

I believe it’s a privilege to help people live more happily in better relationships with themselves and others, as everything we do or are in life is because of how we ‘relate’ to it, them or ourselves.

Training and qualifications

I trained with Relate where I gained my PG Diploma in Relationship Counselling, which focuses on an integrative psychological approach.

I continued with my training at the Institute of Family Therapy, gaining my PG Certificate in Systemic Practice with Families and Couples.

This led me to complete PG level two Certificate in Narrative Therapy as well as a comprehensive course in mindfulness-based therapies.

I have also trained with Relate in suicidal risk and have an advanced certification in domestic violence and child protection and safeguarding.

It’s important to me that I work in an ethical manner, which is why I have a private supervisor (BACP accredited member) and take part in regular continuous professional learning.

Past experience

My time working for Relate is busy seeing couples, families and individuals with relationship issues.

I also work with a different charity counselling parents and vulnerable adults covering issues such as pregnancy, perinatal care, post-natal depression, eating disorders, anxiety, sexual, emotional and physical abuse, borderline personality disorder, race, gender and sexuality.

In the past I have also been a Samaritan, helping people with suicidal thoughts.

Professional affiliations

Fees and availability

£55 for all initial sessions.

Then:

Central London ongoing counselling

  • £65 for individuals
  • £75 for couples and families

East Dulwich only ongoing counselling

  • £55 for individuals
  • £65 for couples and families