Fraya Zella Wolf

I can help with...

• Abandonment issues
• Ageing
• Burnout
• Communication skills
• Conscious living and presence
• Loneliness and isolation
• Major life changes
• Neurodiversity
• Post-traumatic growth
• Psychosomatic issues
• Relationship difficulties
• Sexuality
• Social anxiety
• Spiritual emergence and awakening
• Stress

Types of clients I see

• Individuals
• Couples

Languages I speak

• English

Location(s)

• Langdale House, 11 Marshalsea Road, London SE1 1EN
• Online

Types of therapy I offer

• Humanistic
• Imago Relationship Therapy
• Integrative
• Relational
• Transpersonal

My approach

I take a holistic and embodied approach to my work with individuals and couples that combines traditional psychology with the VITA™ Method (vital and integrated tantric approach) and Imago relationship therapy.

VITA is a modern, trauma-informed approach to sex, love and relationships that combines neuroscience, somatic experiencing and internal family systems therapy (parts work) with the ancient wisdom and practices of Tantra and Taoism. In practice this means the inclusion of  breathwork, energy work, sound, movement and mindfulness to work holistically with mind, body and soul.

Imago is an approach to couples therapy, primarily using the Imago Dialogue, which was made popular by the hugely successful self-help book for couples: Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.  Championed by the likes of Oprah Winfrey and Alanis Morrisette, this method gets to the heart of couples’ issues by understanding where they start: in childhood. Through learning how to communicate through dialogue, and consideration of each other’s defences, learned early in life, couples can come to a new appreciation of their beloved and come to know real love and conscious partnership.

I have a special interest in working with relational trauma that leads to loneliness, isolation, relationship breakdown and a lack of connection and intimacy. I work with these issues with both individuals and couples. I can support you to becoming more authentic and present in all relational areas of your life, and to find purpose and meaning in your life and relationships – including the one that you have with yourself. Whether you are dating, deciding whether to go or stay, or trying to hang on to love, I can help. In more recent years, the spiritual aspect to my work continues to grow as more and more people are awakening in the world. I came to my own spirituality through suffering in relationship. I understand the many challenges of painful relationships and I also know the joy of liberation from doing the inner work and learning to love from presence.

Much of the work I do today is to help people become more conscious in love and intimate partnership, which can mean all sorts of things including:

• learning how date consciously from self-love
• creating a conscious partnership
• developing a sacred sex practice
• conscious uncoupling

My original training in the humanistic approach means that I’ve always understood clients as unique individuals with a tendency for growth and development, whose potential can be thwarted by life’s experiences – but also nurtured in an environment that has the right conditions for change – that is, a good therapeutic relationship where work at some depth can take place.

I’m an experienced psychotherapist who has transitioned from a fundamentally talking therapy style to a more somatic and spiritual way of working, which feels aligned to the experience of awakening and becoming more conscious to life. Moving and expanding to a more transpersonal approach, I consider the importance of meaning and purpose in people’s lives that includes their experience and aspiration for connection with all of life, including nature.

Having a social psychology background, my approach has always been antithetical to the medical model and I tend to see people as affected by their experiences and what has been done to them, rather than as disordered or broken individuals: we are all products of the groups and environments in which we have spent our lives. My PhD was underpinned by systems theory (and feminist theory) and I understand how many of us yearn for connection, yet often become alienated. I see this largely as a problem of the patriarchy and am excited to be living in times where we are moving away from the old models of living and towards something freer that transcends the current reality for so many.

I used to be part of a university research group that is influenced by positive psychology and focuses on human flourishing and post-traumatic growth. These ideas have long fitted with my own ideas, values and beliefs and I have endeavoured to help clients become who they really are, to realise their full potential, and flourish as human beings (no matter what their backgrounds and challenges). Today, I enjoy applying these concepts to sex, love and relationships: working with individuals and couples to understand their desires, working through the blocks and barriers in the way of those, and supporting them to achieve their dreams.

Training, qualifications and experience

From earliest to most recent, I:

• undertook core training at the University of Warwick and gained a BA (Hons) in Person-Centred Counselling and Psychotherapy
• was awarded an MSc in Psychology by Coventry University
• completed specialised training with Women’s Aid to practise as a domestic abuse prevention advocate
• trained in Irvin Yalom’s method of interpersonal group psychotherapy with The Forward Trust (formerly Rapt) in London before working on drug treatment programmes in male prisons in the UK
• gained a Counselling Supervision Diploma with Lindum College
• was awarded a PhD in Psychological, Behavioural and Social Science by Coventry University
• graduated from the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality as a VITA (vital and integrated tantric approach) Coach
• qualified as an Imago Relationship Therapist
• became certified in Arielle Schwartz’s Therapeutic Yoga for Trauma Recovery
• trained as a Teacher of Presence with Eckhart Tolle

I have a breadth and depth of experience in a variety of settings such as:

• the NHS
• Safeline (child and adult survivors of child sexual abuse)
• Coventry Haven (domestic abuse)
• Face2Face (children and young people)
• RAPt (Rehabilitation of Addicted Prisoners’ Trust)
• Bayberry addiction treatment centre

Professional affiliations

I am a registered and accredited member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy).

Code of ethics

I abide by the BACP Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions 2018.

Fees and availability

I work in London Bridge and online via Zoom

My practice runs from lunchtime to late evening. I tend to see individuals weekly and couples fortnightly, but also offer good flexibility for personal preferences, as well as short notice and weekend sessions.

My fees are:

• £100 for a 50-minute session
• £120 for a 60-minute session
• £150 per 90-minute session

My prices are the same for individuals and couples.

I also offer intensive therapy-coaching weekends – please contact me for more details.