Susan is a relationship coach, supporting individuals and couples to find love, create and maintain relationships, overcome crisis and recover from breakup.

I can help with...

  • Affairs and betrayals
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Separation and divorce

Types of client I see

  • Individuals
  • Couples

Languages I speak

  • English


  • Room 302 at King's Cross Business Centre, 180/186 King’s Cross Road, London WC1X 9DE

Types of therapy I offer

  • Coaching

My approach

When an intimate relationship is good, that affects the whole of your life for the better. When an intimate relationship is painful… stuck… fading… challenging… that affects the whole of your life for the worse.

But it may not be easy to face such challenges on your own. Often what you need is someone to look at things from the outside, help you see what needs to change, support you to make that change.

If you’re currently struggling around intimate relationships, I offer coaching and mentoring to support you in gaining the love you want and deserve.

I have particular expertise in helping you:

  • recover from a past partnership
  • prepare for a new partnership
  • open up to intimacy
  • find love
  • find love online
  • build a relationship
  • enhance their relationship
  • tackle sexual boredom
  • rekindle dying desire
  • reclaim fading love
  • resolve relationship conflict
  • overcome an affair
  • survive relationship crisis
  • end a relationship well
  • regain confidence to love again

(Please note that I am a coach, not a counsellor or therapist, and if you have a specific issue that needs medical or therapeutic expertise, then I will refer you to find specialist help for that.)

What does coaching involve?

In every session, we’ll allow plenty of room for you to explore your worries and concerns at a deep level. We’ll also work very actively to help you understand what’s happening, to see things in new and more useful ways, to develop and build your confidence, to increase your relationship skills.

I follow up every session with full notes of what we have discussed, and I usually set homework for you to do between sessions

My experience is that clients usually know more than they realise about their situation – my role is to help you become aware of what you need and what you need to do. So although the work may sometimes be demanding, it will also be hugely exciting as we explore together how you can have the best relationship you can possibly have.

What some of my clients have said…

“I took Susan’s advice last summer and now couldn’t be happier; my partner and I are getting married.”

M, Derby

“Susan’s coaching helped me resolve in only five sessions an issue I had struggled with for five years.”

N, London

“Susan takes you on a journey from and back to yourself. Her experience means you are always supported, always encouraged and your boundaries are gently pushed. She has helped me to be more courageous and to take risks I didn’t think were possible.”

P, Cambridge

“Susan has been a fantastic help. She helped me understand and get past my barriers to intimacy. As a result, my husband and I have discovered a new, highly erotic and wonderful side of our relationship. Susan’s style is wonderfully warm, patient and non-judgmental. I would strongly recommend her.”

J, London

Training, qualifications and experience

My original training at the University of Liverpool was in psychology, and through the 1970s I worked teaching and lecturing to students about life skills.

In 1980s, I became interested in personal development, first to resolve my own relationship issues then to help others. I trained first in a self-help method called co-counselling and went on to teach and teach teachers, then built on this work with other courses and experience of teaching and coaching. I soon became especially interested in relationship issues.

Now, as well as face-to-face coaching, I give email guidance to clients of the Sexual Advice Association and of Women’s Health Concern. I teach courses on love and sexuality as a Faculty member of the global organisation The School of Life. I have also written 21 books on relationships including for Relate, and in 2008 was privileged to be invited to update the classic book The Joy of Sex.

For the past 30 years, I have been actively involved with several organisations that support intimacy issues. I am on the Editorial Board of the Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Health; the Advisory Boards of the British Association of Health Educators, of Women’s Health Concern, and of the Sexual Advice Association; have been honoured as one of the Family Planning Association’s 21st Century Achievers, and am a Patron of the Outsiders Charity campaigning for sexual equality for the disabled.

Professional affiliations

I am an Associate Member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, the Royal Society of Medicine and the British Society for Sexual Medicine, by whose codes of ethics I abide.

Fees and availability

I work at King’s Cross every Wednesday from 14:30 into the evening. I work with individuals and couples. If you are partnered but your partner doesn’t want to attend, you and I can still do useful work together.

I offer an introductory session of one hour where we can explore whether we would like to work together. I charge £70 for this session. After this I work in sessions of two hours, for which the total charge per session is £135.

How long we continue depends on how quickly you advance – perhaps just a few sessions, regular sessions for some months, or ‘touchdown’ sessions at intervals to monitor progress.