Susan is a relationship coach, supporting individuals and couples to find love, create and maintain relationships, overcome crisis and recover from breakup.
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- Relationship difficulties
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When an intimate relationship is good, that affects the whole of your life for the better. When an intimate relationship is hard to find, hard to maintain, or hard to end, that affects the whole of your life for the worse.
But it may not be easy to solve such challenges on your own. Often what you need is someone to look at things from the outside, help you see what needs to change, and support you to make that change.
If you’re currently struggling around intimate relationships, I offer coaching to support you in gaining the love you want and deserve.
I have particular expertise in helping you:
- recover from a past partnership
- prepare for a new partnership
- open up to intimacy
- find love
- find love online
- build a relationship
- enhance your relationship
- tackle sexual boredom
- rekindle dying desire
- reclaim fading love
- resolve relationship conflict
- overcome an affair
- survive relationship crisis
- end a relationship well
- regain confidence to love again
What does coaching involve?
In every session, we’ll allow plenty of room for you to explore your worries and concerns at a deep level. We’ll also work very actively to help you understand what’s happening, to see things in new and more useful ways, to develop and build your confidence, to increase your relationship skills.
The foundation of what I do is to help you build a strong sense of your own Inner Life – that is, to explore your internal thoughts and feelings and then translate those into positive action. In particular, we’ll work to help you appreciate your personal strengths, build your partnership skills, and resolve any internal conflicts that are blocking you from having a relationship in which you thrive.
I follow up every session with full notes of what we have discussed, and I usually set homework for you to do between sessions.
My experience is that clients usually know more than they realise about their situation – my role is to help you become aware of what you need and what you need to do. So although the work may sometimes be demanding, it will also be hugely exciting as we explore together how you can have the best relationship you can possibly have.
What some of my clients have said…
“I took Susan’s advice last summer and now couldn’t be happier; my partner and I are getting married.”
“Susan’s coaching helped me resolve in only five sessions an issue I had struggled with for five years.”
“Susan takes you on a journey from and back to yourself. Her experience means you are always supported, always encouraged and your boundaries are gently pushed. She has helped me to be more courageous and to take risks I didn’t think were possible.”
“Susan has been a fantastic help. She helped me understand and get past my barriers to intimacy. As a result, my husband and I have discovered a new, highly erotic and wonderful side of our relationship. Susan’s style is wonderfully warm, patient and non-judgmental. I would strongly recommend her.”
Training, qualifications and experience
My original training at the University of Liverpool was in psychology. I worked through the 1970s teaching and lecturing to students about life skills, specifically those relevant to relationships.
In 1980s, I became interested in personal development, first to resolve my own relationship issues then to help others. I trained first in a self-help method called co-counselling and went on to teach and teach teachers, then built on this work with other courses and experience of teaching and coaching. I soon became especially interested in relationship issues.
Now, as well as face-to-face coaching, I teach courses on love and sexuality and am relationships advice columnist for the weekly magazines Fabulous and Woman. I have also written 21 books on relationships including for Relate, and in 2008 was privileged to be chosen to update the classic book The Joy of Sex. My latest book is How to Choose a Partner, written in conjunction with the self-development organisation The School of Life.
For the past 30 years, I have been actively involved with several organisations that support intimacy issues. I currently serve on the Council for Sexuality and Sexual Health of the Royal Society of Medicine, have been honoured as one of the Family Planning Association’s 21st Century Achievers, and am a Patron of the Outsiders Charity campaigning for sexual equality for the disabled. In 2015 I was also named Dating Expert of the Year at the UK Dating Awards.
Please note that I am a coach – not a counsellor or therapist. If your relationship problem needs counselling or therapeutic expertise, or involves addiction, abuse, mental illness or high levels or conflict/aggression, then coaching may well not be the best approach for you. If so, I’m happy to refer you to find specialist help.
Fees and availability
I work at King’s Cross every Wednesday from 14:30 into the evening. I work with individuals and couples. If you are partnered but your partner doesn’t want to attend, you and I can still do useful work together.
I work in fortnightly sessions of 1 hour and 45 minutes, and set homework between sessions to allow you to integrate and practise what you learn. The total charge per session in London is £165.
Our first session is an introductory one where we find out whether what I have to offer is what you need. How long we continue will vary – perhaps just a few sessions to resolve a pressing problem, regular sessions for some months, or ‘touchdown’ sessions at intervals to monitor your progress.