Susan is a relationship coach, supporting individuals and couples to find love, create and maintain relationships, overcome crisis and recover from breakup.

I can help with...

  • Relationship difficulties

Types of client I see

  • Individuals
  • Couples

Languages I speak

  • English

Location(s)

  • Room 102 at 180–186 King's Cross Rd, Kings Cross, WC1X 9DE

Types of therapy I offer

  • Coaching

My approach

When an intimate relationship is good, that affects the whole of your life for the better. When an intimate relationship is hard to find, hard to maintain, or hard to end, that affects the whole of your life for the worse.

But it may not be easy to resolve such challenges on your own. Often what you need is someone to look at things from the outside, help you see what needs to change, then support you to make that change.

If you’re currently struggling around intimate relationships, I offer coaching to help you gain the love you want and deserve.

I have particular expertise in helping you:

  • learn the lessons of past love
  • be clear what to look for in partnership
  • find love
  • build love
  • enhance love
  • resolve relationship conflict
  • survive relationship crisis
  • redefine or end a relationship well
  • regain the confidence to love again
  • learn to be in happy relationship with yourself

What does coaching involve?

In every session we’ll work very actively to help you understand what’s happening, to see things in new and more useful ways, to develop and build your confidence, to increase your relationship skills.

The foundation of the work is to help you build a strong sense of your own Inner Life – that is, to help you gain balance and certainty about who you are and therefore what you need in a partnership. In particular, we’ll work to resolve any internal conflicts that may be holding you back so that you can have a good relationship and live a happy life.

My experience is that clients know more than they realise about how to resolve the challenges they’re facing. So my role is to help you become aware of what you need and what you need to do. And although the work may sometimes be demanding, it will also be hugely exciting as we explore together how you can have the best relationship you can possibly have.

A final note. We will take seriously everything we do together. But that will likely still include smiling, laughing, being enthusiastic, getting excited, shedding tears where appropriate and of course celebrating whenever possible!

What some of my clients have said…

“I took Susan’s advice last summer and now couldn’t be happier; my partner and I are getting married.”

M, Derby

“Susan’s coaching helped me resolve in only 5  sessions an issue I had struggled with for 5 years.”

N, London

“Susan takes you on a journey from and back to yourself. Her experience means you are always supported, always encouraged and your boundaries are gently pushed. She has helped me to be more courageous and to take risks I didn’t think were possible.”

P, Cambridge

“Susan has been a fantastic help. She helped me understand and get past my barriers to intimacy. As a result, my husband and I have discovered a new, highly erotic and wonderful side of our relationship. Susan’s style is wonderfully warm, patient and non-judgmental. I would strongly recommend her.”

J, London

Training, qualifications and experience

My original training at the University of Liverpool was in psychology. I worked through the 1970s teaching and lecturing to students about life skills, specifically those relevant to relationships.

In the 1980s, I became interested in personal development, first to resolve my own relationship issues then to help others. I trained first in a self-help method called co-counselling and went on to teach and teach teachers, then built on this work with other courses and experience of teaching and coaching. I soon became especially interested in helping others overcome their partnership challenges.

Now, as well as face-to-face coaching, I teach courses on love and sexuality and am relationships advice columnist for the weekly magazine Woman. I have also written 21 books on relationships including for Relate, and in 2008 was privileged to be chosen to update the classic book The Joy of Sex. My latest book is How to Choose a Partner, written in conjunction with the self-development organisation The School of Life.

For the past 30 years, I have been actively involved with several organisations that support relationship issues. I currently serve on the Council for Sexuality and Sexual Health of the Royal Society of Medicine, have been honoured as one of the Family Planning Association’s 21st Century Achievers, and am a Patron of the Outsiders Charity campaigning for sexual equality for the disabled. In 2015 I was also named Dating Expert of the Year at the UK Dating Awards.

Please note that I am a coach – not a counsellor or therapist. If your relationship problem needs counselling or therapeutic expertise, or involves addiction, abuse, mental illness or high levels or conflict/aggression, then coaching may well not be the best approach for you. If so, I’m happy to refer you to find specialist help.

Professional affiliations

I am a Professional Associate of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists and an Associate Member of the Royal Society of Medicine. I abide by the codes of ethics of both organisations.

Fees and availability

I work at King’s Cross in central London every Wednesday from 14:30 into the evening. I work with individuals and couples. If you are partnered but your partner doesn’t want to attend, you and I can still do useful work together.

I work in fortnightly sessions of 1 hour and 45 minutes, and set homework so that our work continues between those sessions.

The total charge per fortnightly session in London is £175.

Our first session is an introductory one where we find out whether what I have to offer is what you need. How long we continue will vary – perhaps just a few sessions to resolve a pressing problem, regular sessions for some months, or ‘touchdown’ sessions at intervals to monitor your progress.